23 December 2014

Letting things go!

This year has been a truly eventful one no matter which part of the globe you live.  Things just get so busy and stressful that people so cannot wait until the New Year to reset batteries and charge on again into another busy year.  IT has been a great year to LET THINGS GO!!
For me I have had the busiest year personally ever.  I not only turned 40, I finally got married! I married the man I love and the man who makes me happy and who makes me smile everyday, even when he is being a pain in the arse (as boys do so well). I keep learning about love and relationships and how important it is to just LET THINGS GO, especially the little fecking things that you think are important but in hindsight are NOT. 
On turning 40 life isn't about an number but about what YOU DO with your life.  This year I have just allowed myself to be me. To do what I choose and not feel obligated to anything or anyone and it was perfect.  I spent time with great friends, family and of course my husband and I wouldn't change a thing.  I also let things go, said NO to people when I didn't want to do certain things and learnt to listen to my gut when dealing with any situations.

Time to let things go, let all the hurt, worry, stress go and remember that you have control you CAN make choices to a happier life that is stress free. The key things are to be organised, plan ahead and love yourself from within. Don't look for external people/materials to complete you or make you happy, they will be a part of what makes your heart full and the reason for your smile but only YOU can make yourself truly happy. Rely on yourself, love yourself, nuture yourself and ensure you take out time for you. 

I have loved my yoga sessions this year! They really have reminded me how important it is to take time out for yourself and just be at one with body and mind. To stretch the body, relax the mind and think from your heart(Yin) and not always your brain/mind (Yang).  Being balanced is key. 

I am looking forward to 2015 and have spent a few hours planning already which has left me very excited about the.doors I will open in 2015. Have set my goals differently,  concentrating on yin energy. Freaking excited. On my achievement list is to blog my new experiences & learnings. 

One of my first challenges is to have a break from Facebook for a month. Time to change habits & have more contact with people through old school channels (coffee catch-ups, phone, email, using a paper diary) and utilizing social media platform's like Instagram, Twitter and Blogger a little more. I have unfollowed 60% of pages on Facebook and will cull again today friends who I don't really engage with. 

My project for 2015 is ME. By challenging myself in many different areas (some yang, some yin) I am intrigued to find out more about myself, my capabilities, passions and drive. 

Time to DO this!!

9 December 2014

Why do we care what others think?

You always hear people talk (including myself) about being positive, to reduce negative talk and how using positive words can make you feel less anxious, stressed and learn how to be kinder to yourself.  Actions do speak louder than words and sometimes words are just easier to accept.
All about changing patterns and habits.  This is the key to making any changes in your life and moving towards the goals you have set for yourself.  Thinking it is the best way to start, but getting it out in a journal, blog or a to do list will make the words become alive and real. 
I have been harsh on myself this week, thinking negatively about myself, my appearance and my body. Thinking that I am not good enough, pretty enough or skinny enough to fit in, seriously?? I am 40 years old and am the happiest I have been in some areas of my life whilst I seem to still struggle with meeting other peoples expectations. WHY? Habit. When things start to get stressful in one area of my life, it is like a coping mechanism, I become obsessed with being perfect, but by whom?  Why do I keep comparing myself to the person I was five, six, seven years ago?
Why do I really give a fuck what people think of me? Most days I don't care but whenever I feel a little insecure these habits and thoughts come flooding back. Why can't I just accept myself for the loving, caring person I am. The lady who loves life, laughs often but also gets anxious when there is a Christmas party coming up that I won't look good enough in my dress, I compare myself to others and think they are prettier than me or skinnier than me. I get stressed that I don't have a new dress because I wont buy a new one until I can fit into the size that I prefer until I feel better about myself.
This is starting to consume me everyday.  I have let fear gain control. I have left fear control me and put a protective layer around me to keep that fear in (by gaining weight).  I have learnt what is causing that fear and I am making steps everyday to release the energy that keeps this fear in and learn to balance myself out.  Yin more than Yang.
I must stop letting external factors get to me. Remember that I am awesome and amazing just the way I am. That the path I am on right this minute is the perfect path. I am the only one who can make changes in my life.